Many couples find that after a period of time together their sex life can go a little stale and as it is so important as part of a healthy relationship you should try to introduce something different to help spice it up again. The phrase ‘sex shops‘ can strike the fear of god into most people; although you really shouldn’t be scared to try something new. Many sex shops now have online stores if you prefer not to take a trip to the local store; it makes your order a little more discreet and you can browse without looking over your shoulder.

You could start with something rather tame like flavoured lube; it isn’t so out there that it might scare your partner and it gives a chance to explore each other bodies, which in turn would lead to a better sex life. Or maybe you would like to step it up a notch and invest in some handcuffs. Once you have tried some of the less exotic toys you could move on to something a little more adventurous.

If you are looking to achieve a better sex life with your partner it is extremely important that you are comfortable with your own body. Maybe you could invest in a vibrator so you know exactly how your body works and you can relay this information to your partner so you can both achieve a more successful sex life. This works both ways, ask them what they especially like so you can make sure they are as happy as you are. You will find the more open you are about what turns you on the more you and your partner will enjoy your time together. Having a healthy sex life will have an effect on the all aspects of your relationship and will help you work towards a near perfect relationship. Remember talking is the best way to find out what your partner is thinking and is the key to making your relationship better.

Take a shower.  Brush your teeth.  Clip and clean your fingernails.  Wear freshly washed clothing.  If you suffer bad breath, keep some breath mints handy. Pull out those nasal hairs!  Do what you must to make yourself clean and neat.
Cologne
If you can, find a nice and popular cologne to wear, but don’t overdo it.  You want the smell to be subtle, not strong.  What cologne is the right one to wear?  If it’s a cheapy, forget it.  You want cologne that advertises you are the man and the best way to pick it is to find a female service assistant to help you.  Ask her what her favorite is and the one she tells you will probably be the one to go for.  Just be sure that you never spray cologne directly on yourself.  Spray it in the air, and walk through the spray in the air only once to have it lightly fall on you.  One spray is always enough!
Your physical shape
You don’t need to have a six pack, and it doesn’t matter if you are overweight.  What matters is who you are.  But, if you’re not looking for a long term relationship and you’re just looking to flirt and pick up a girl here and there for a “good time”, then your physical body certainly becomes a contributing factor to your success.  Get the edge by keeping yourself in good shape.

There’s no need to become the next Arnold Schwarzenegger.  You might be surprised to know that big muscles aren’t that attractive to most women. More often than not a fit, nicely toned body is what most women would rather see on their man.  This is good for you, because you don’t have to spend endless hours in the gym and endless dollars on buying muscle building supplements.  In fact, a half hour walk everyday and a few pushups here and there can be more than enough.

Once you have a hint of interest, don’t approach her right away.  You want to confirm her interest.  The trick to doing so is to repeat the moment where your eyes meet.  This time you don’t want or need to be as subtle, but again, avoid staring.  Simply look for the moment where you can meet her eyes and, if they meet again, she’s showing you she’s interested in you. To be 100% certain, give her a nice, short smile.  If she returns it, you have a green light to approach her.
Approaching her
If you’ve already shared a moment of connection and a smile, you should approach her according to the situation.  If it’s a private place, you might want to wait until you’re both in a more public area to approach her.  If she’s in the middle of something, you might want to wait until she finishes what she’s doing.  The trick is to remember once contact is made, the interest is there and it won’t go away.  All you have to do is approach her before she goes away.

When you approach her, don’t launch upon her like a desperate clown.  Be slow and methodical, but confident.  Approach her with a smile and a single goal: to give her a compliment and your phone number.
Hand her your phone number with a flattery
When you first approach a girl you have never met before, the first thing you say and do, and how you hold yourself when you say and do it, can be the make or break of your chance to get with her.  This is why when you flirt for the first time you don’t want to hang around for too long such that you might say the wrong thing and blow it.

Just as making initial eye contact was about getting her interest, so too is your first approach.  When you first talk to her, you should excuse yourself by telling her that you hope she doesn’t mind you interrupting her but that she caught your interest – and you’d be pleased if she wouldn’t mind if you gave her your phone number.  Explain to her that it is entirely up to her if she calls you, and reinforce to her that there is no pressure and that you aren’t asking for her number.  Then tell her that you really hope she calls you because she is very attractive and you would like to get to know her better.

Don’t go crazy trying to compliment her.  A single flattering remark that you find her attractive is enough.  Over complimenting her will raise her defenses as she will begin wonder about your true motives.  Don’t give her anything to wonder about. Keep it short and simple. You want to flatter her and give her your phone number.  That is your first move.
A tip when making the first move
Girls are shy, at least, more shy than guys.  You’ll be amazed to learn that many gorgeous women are single because most guys think they must be taken or are out of their league.  Give her your number, but don’t ask for hers. Tell her you’d love to have her phone number and she might volunteer it, but most of all you don’t want to make her feel uncomfortable.  You’ve made the first move, and the second move is for her to call you.

When she calls
If you’ve followed the general guidelines given here you will have great success in attracting a girl’s interest.  She won’t know much about you, but she does know you’re friendly, you smile, you’re not overbearing and you didn’t try to be pushy in your desire to get to know her.  Above all else, she knows you think she’s attractive and she will also know there is no way she’ll see you again unless she calls you – because you didn’t ask for her number.  More often than not you’ll find she’ll call you that day or, at worst, within a few days.

When she calls, you will want to thank her and say that you are pleased she did.  Now that she has shown interest, you can chat with her if you want to, but it is recommended you keep the conversation short and simply ask her if she’d like to meet up (since she made the contact, meeting up for lunch, dinner or any other reason is fine, so long as you pick a public location).

Naturally it will be easy for you to ask her out since she called you.

Don’t Stare
So you’ve spotted a girl and you want to go for it.  Here’s your next tip: Don’t stare.  Your goal is to convince her that a connection between the two of you has happened by a glance and that the glance occurred when both of your eyes met for the first time.  Obviously you’ll need to time that moment well, but you don’t want her to think you are or have been staring at her.  Be subtle with how you watch for the moment when you can create the ‘instant connection.’  The trick is to look at her with your peripheral vision, look away the moment you notice she is about to look in your direction, and then to look back almost immediately and then lock your eyes on hers to create the ‘I just noticed you’ moment.
Show your interest, then look away.

Once you create the ‘I just noticed you’ moment, fixate on her eyes for a second or two longer than would normally occur as a glance, just enough to let her know you’re interested.  Then look away immediately.  Again, you don’t want her to think you’re a creep, and if she thinks you are staring, it will do exactly that by making her feel uncomfortable.

How many times have you seen an attractive girl with a less than attractive guy and wondered, ‘How did he get her?’ Next time you are out, look around and take specific notice of the boyfriends who are holding the hands of all the attractive girls you see and soon you’ll begin to realize that just as commonly as these girls will be hitched with an attractive guy, they’ll also be with one who isn’t.

How is it that these guys, who perhaps aren’t even as good looking as you, have managed to win these attractive girls?  The answer is that despite outward appearances, the guy has other qualities that are attractive to them!

You see, success at winning with the opposite sex begins by connecting with them in a way that makes you attractive as an overall package, and not just as a superficial one.  Girls aren’t simply visually driven; they look for qualities that go to a deeper level than what can be seen on the surface. Once you understand what those qualities are, that is, the things that attract a woman to a man, then you have everything you need to be successful with the women whom you are in turn attracted to.

This guide has been written to help you do just that.  We’ll cover the major things you need to know to have success at establishing that usually elusive connection, and we’ll cover the mistakes that you need to avoid.  Once you know what to do, and what not to do, your confidence level will soar and you’ll find you can flirt, attract, date and ultimately win the girl who you want to be yours.

Well, almost.

There are times when you are better off not flirting and there are places where you’re better off not flirting too, if for no other reason than the odds are stacked against you at those times or in those places.
Flirt with honor
Clearly, you don’t want to be flirting with a girl who is out on a date with her boyfriend!  Even if you do and think of yourself as someone who isn’t afraid to get into an altercation with another guy, you should always be conscious of the fact that the girl you are flirting with is already with someone else and as such there is a greater likelihood that she won’t welcome your advances.  Further, if it does turn into an altercation, she certainly won’t appreciate you for causing it.  Generally, women like men with honor and they also like men they can trust.  Do you think she’ll see you as honorable if you make your move when she’s with someone else? Do you think she’ll see you as trustworthy if right from the outset you demonstrate your willingness to try to get her to cheat?  Obviously not.

The basic rule of thumb is to not waste your time flirting with girls who are obviously already taken!

So, what happens if you flirt with a girl who isn’t with her boyfriend, only to find out that she has one?  Simple.  Once again, even if she’s being nice, the polite way to approach the situation is to apologize.  Simply tell her that you find her very interesting, but that you won’t bother her now that you know.  You can always ask her to remember you if ever her circumstances change.
The best places to flirt
Some people will tell you the best place to try to flirt with women is at a nightclub or a bar, after all, those are the best places to pick up girls, right? Not necessarily and, in fact, there are also a few good reasons why those aren’t the best places to meet girls.
You see, it is true that some girls go to bars and nightclubs to meet men, but others go simply to have a good time with their friends and to dance. Also, because it is common amongst guys to think of bars and nightclubs as the place to “pick up a chick”, girls who aren’t going there for the same reason will be in a defensive mode.  As a result, the odds of picking up at a bar and nightclub are higher if you’re lucky enough to approach a girl who is there for the same reason, but if not, the odds are also higher that you will be rejected outright before you even have a chance to strike up a conversation – assuming you can over the noise.  Further, nightclubs and bars are filled with other men competing with you for those women who aren’t on the defense, so in the end it all balances out to the point where the odds of rejection are just as high as anywhere else.

Rather than allow this knowledge to lower your spirits about approaching girls at bars, let it raise your confidence about flirting with girls outside of those bars.  The beautiful truth is that often your chances of success will be much higher when you successfully ‘connect’ with a girl in a place where she is less likely to feel defensive.

To avoid flirting at a time when she’s not going to be so defensive, don’t make your move when you’re both mostly alone in a private place, as she may feel concerned about your true intentions.  Don’t make your move on a girl who is clearly in a hurry, or who is preoccupied with something else that will suck her attention away (such as if she’s trying to talk to someone else).  The kinds of places where your flirting efforts will work best are those that are highly public, such as libraries, supermarkets, shops, restaurants and even in the street.

Most guys who flirt tend to do so from a position of stress, concern, and if they find themselves rejected, with anger.  When you talk to a girl she can pick up your ‘vibe’, just as you can pick up the ‘vibe’ of other people.  The last thing you want is for someone to pick up the vibe that you are a serious or stressed out person, or, ultimately, a person who is angry and unlikeable when they don’t get their way.  You can avoid all of that by approaching the whole task of flirting as a fun and playful activity.  Always remember that even the girl that rejects you might be the girl that ultimately takes an interest in you if you respond to her rejection with a smile and a joke.